Do You Love With Dissimulation?

I was an English major at an Ivy League university, but some words – many in fact – go right over my head. If the truth be known, some words go right over my heart – until God gets a hold of me and shows me not just the meaning of the words, but what exactly He wants me to do about them. Take the word dissimulation, for example. Now there’s a big word with a big meaning – one with which I was not at all familiar until the Lord impressed it up on me to look up its meaning. But knowing the meaning was not even remotely enough, as He showed me quite clearly.
The Bible says: Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good.” (Romans 12:9 KJV)

I have no idea how many times I flew right by that word in my studies before it dawned on me I would do well to look up its definition, but suffice it to say once I discovered its meaning I received a good old kick in the butt – or heart, to be precise. 

In a nutshell, loving without dissimulation translates into loving without pretense, without making love up, without pretending to have love when I don’t, without playing make-believe love. Loving without dissimulation means loving for real rather than putting on an act of love.

A dear friend told me recently, “You need to love that dog with your heart.” I knew instantly what she meant because the Lord had used the scripture above to convict me of loving without really loving. In other words, I have at times loved in my actions but not in my heart. I have loved with my works but not in my thoughts and my feelings.

My friend reminded me when she spoke of this dog that I need to love this dog with sincerity, i.e. to love the dog genuinely. Quite frankly, this is a tall order for me. This particular dog, though a wonderful, happy, and healthy, perfectly adoptable dog, is a bundle of energy that is too much for me to handle given my responsibilities with a significant number of dogs including special needs ones.

I was convicted when my friend spoke to me of patting the dog on the head very quickly, mumbling a few “kind” words, and quickly passing her by. I wish I could say I have done a better job since I received the conviction, but I have not. My responsibilities since the conviction have significantly increased, and my feelings about the dog have remained the same.

Loving without dissimulation, for me, is about loving through Christ, loving for Christ, and loving with Christ. As a human, I am incapable of loving in all situations because human love only goes so far. But the Lord gave me a scripture several years back that reminds me He supplies me with His love that I can then use to love others – without dissimulation. I do not need to put on an “act” of love when I love with His love because His love is always without dissimulation. His love is always real, sincere, and never ending.

“And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us.” Romans 5:5 KJV

The bottom line in my experience is that loving without dissimulation is moving out of human love and into the love of the Lord. His love enables me to love when my human love at its very best can only pretend to love.

How about you? Have you ever felt limited in your ability to love? Have you ever run across someone seemingly impossible to love? Have you ever no matter how great your efforts fallen short in loving with sincerity? Why not try God’s love.

His love is always without dissimulation. His love never fails……..

4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails…” (1 Cor. 13: 4-8 NKJV)

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