When People Break Your Heart

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“He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High
Shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.” Psalm 91:1

“Trust in Him at all times, you people;
Pour out your heart before Him;
God is a refuge for us. Selah” Psalm 62:8

“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” Mt. 6:14-15

I’m sensitive. I’ve always been sensitive. I haven’t become less sensitive since I became a sold-out totally devoted Christ follower. If anything, I’m more sensitive. God’s given me a big heart. A really big one. And when people break my heart, it doesn’t just hurt a little. It hurts so much that sometimes I wonder how I’m going to get over my broken heart.

Broken hearts aren’t just about romances gone sour, about marriages gone awry, about boyfriends and girlfriends breaking up, about unwanted divorces crushing already bruised hearts. Broken hearts are more than anything about the human heart being hurt – sometimes a little, sometimes a lot, sometimes unfathomably indescribably much. Hurt by people being mean, cruel, unkind, insensitive, hurtful, nasty, violent, selfish, self-centered, vengeful, prideful, and a whole host of other things.

Sometimes our hearts get hurt by the obvious. Sometimes by the less obvious. Sometimes because of stuff other people wouldn’t even care about. Nevertheless we care. And we hurt. Oh, how our hearts hurt over all sorts of things. Like this.

I did dog rescue work for about 20 years, and one of the hardest things I had to face through the years were a few times when people adopted a dog from me and without any forewarning, without any known reason, without an explanation, without any apology, without any further ado, broke off all contact with me whereby despite the adoption contract they had signed they refused to let me know how the dog they had adopted was doing when I reached out to them.

As miserably as I have failed at times loving the dogs in my care and as much as I have had at those times to repent and seek the Lord’s forgiveness and the forgiveness of the beautiful dogs in my care, these dogs in whom I poured so very much time and care were still near and dear to me. And having the ability taken from me periodically to find out how they were after their adoptions, well, in a nutshell, with some dogs in particular, broke my heart.

What do we do when people break our hearts? My experience I have described may be one to which you cannot even remotely relate. You may have your own experiences of your heart breaking over something entirely different that perhaps wouldn’t impact me in the least if it were my own experience. But bottom line, we all experience our heartaches and heart hurts and heart breaks in life, don’t we?

So how do we handle them? What do we do with our broken hearts? We can wall ourselves off from the world and isolate ourselves in a desperate attempt to try to protect ourselves from any more hurt, we can run to the world and get whatever help we can find in the way of human help some of which most assuredly has its proper place, we can run to the world and do foolish and unwise and even dangerous things to try to lessen the ache and hurt like try to hide through overeating, overspending, drinking, drugs, sex, pornography, vengeance, etc., or we can do what this message bears to you and to me.

WE CAN RUN TO THE LORD JESUS CHRIST. WE CAN RUN TO THE EVERLASTING ARMS OF GOD ALMIGHTY. WE CAN RUN TO THE GREATEST HEALER THAT EVER WAS AND IS AND WILL BE. THE LORD JESUS CHRIST. WE CAN RUN TO THE BIBLE WHICH IS THE ONLY PERFECTLY TRUE AND EVERLASTING ENTIRELY PERFECT ROAD MAP FOR LIFE NOW AND FOREVER.

WE CAN RUN TO THE LOVE AND MERCY AND GRACE AND WISDOM AND COMFORT OF JESUS. WE CAN RUN TO JESUS’ SHELTER. WE CAN REST IN HIM. TRUST IN HIM. UNFOLD IN HIM. CRY TO HIM. POUR OUT OUR HEARTS TO HIM. POUR OUT OUR HURTS TO HIM. SEEK HIM. LISTEN TO HIM. FOLLOW HIM. OBEY HIM. WORSHIP HIM. HEAL IN HIS ARMS. HEAL IN HIS MERCY. HEAL IN HIS GRACE. HEAL IN HIS LOVE. HEAL IN HIM. ABIDE IN HIM. DWELL IN HIM.

ALL BEGINNING WITH REPENTING OF OUR SINS AND BELIEVING JESUS CHRIST IS LORD AND DIED ON THE CROSS TO PAY OUR SIN PENALTY AND WAS RAISED FROM THE DEAD, TURNING AWAY FROM A LIFESTYLE OF SIN AND COMMITTING OUR LIVES UTTERLY TO GOD AND HIS WAYS WHEREBY WE ARE FORGIVEN BY GOD AND GIVEN AN EVERLASTING RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM.

And we can LOVE the people that hurt us and FORGIVE the people who hurt us. Because this is what God commands us to do.

We can choose the way of love. The way of Christ. The way of peace. The way of mercy. The way of letting God be God and letting Him deal with the people who hurt us. Hoping and praying He saves them, delivers them, has mercy on them and teaches them His ways even as we yield our lives to God and His Word that His Spirit may conform us to the image of Christ Jesus as He teaches us, too, to walk in His magnificent ways.

Can I be honest with you? Deep, deep inside me, my heart hurts every single day over some of the things I’ve been through in my life. Over some of the hurts others have caused me in my life. The Lord has given me a love for the people. And a forgiveness and mercy for them. And He has healed me to the point I can go forward in my life loving and serving Him and others. But some hurts leave scars. And I’ve got a few of those deep down inside. But rather than give up because some of the hurts still hurt, I am bound and determined to carry on – loving the Lord, loving others, and trusting God to work everything out the way He desires. All for HIS glory!

To the Lord be the glory! AMEN!

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