In the past weeks, and months, and years to be quite honest, I have been so incredibly let down by people that I have walked around much of my life discouraged, dismayed, disturbed, disappointed, and every “dis” word imaginable. Talk about getting “dis”-ed. Oops, I forgot about disgruntled – and disgusted. I never realized how many “dis” words there are. But more importantly, I failed to realize – or forgot as soon as I did realize – that the problem was in no way limited to people letting me down. The bigger issue was where I placed my expectations.
The Bible says:
Psa 62:5 KJV “My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him.
Psa 62:6 He only is my rock and my salvation: he is my defence; I shall not be moved.
Psa 62:7 In God is my salvation and my glory: the rock of my strength, and my refuge, is in God.
Psa 62:8 Trust in him at all times; ye people, pour out your heart before him: God is a refuge for us. Selah.”
Uh oh. The Bible says to wait “only” on God, and that my expectation needs to be “from Him.” And yet I have continued over and again to turn to people with my expectations. And guess what? People are fallible. They are fickle. They change their minds. They disappoint. They are imperfect. They sin. They make mistakes. I should know. I am a human who has let plenty of people down, even when I have not intended to do so.
So what I really need to do with people is to follow the motto, “Don’t expect the best.” At the same time, I have to be careful about how I place my expectation in God. What do I mean by this? I have a tendency, like so many of us, to think I know what is best. But God knows what is best! Unfortunately, when I think I know what is best, I sell both myself and God short. And, once again, I end up disappointed.
Recently, I have found numerous times that I have been upset with God for not granting my wishes – as if I can wave my magic wand and get God to do what I think is best. Fortunately, He not only knows better. He knows best. When He says no, He knows why – as a friend reminded me just today when I placed an enormous expectation in Him and did not get my desire fulfilled.
If I want to follow the motto, “Expect the best,” I need to do it this way. I need to trust that God knows what is best and let Him reveal His best to me by yielding my life to Him. Rather than tell Him, and plead and beg like a two-year-old for what I think is best, I need to pray for His will – as He lovingly reminds me in the Lord’s prayer. Whatever He chooses will be best. As I like to remind myself, and others, God doesn’t see part of the picture. Someone told me years ago the awesome truth. God sees the whole picture. So who am I to think I know what is best.
Bottom line? Don’t expect the best from people. And don’t tell God I think I know what is best. Expect the best? Yes. From God. His will. His way. His time. His best. For His purpose. And His glory.