How’s Your Marriage?


“I have a ministry,” a lady told me when I met her at the beach and shared with her briefly I do ministry work. “I have a testimony,” she said. “It’s about me and my husband. We’ve been married for 55 years,” she essentially said.

She didn’t tell me love had kept them together for all of those years in a day in age in which marriages fail more than ever it seems. She said this.

“The day we got married,” she basically explained. “Three of us were at the altar.”

She wasn’t referring to a pastor who married them. She was referring to the Lord Jesus Christ. Now, over half a century later, still married, she gave testimony to the one upon whom every life should be founded – and upon whom every marriage should begin, be founded, and remain. On Christ. Lord of Lords. King of Kings. Savior of the world.

What would marriages look like in today’s day and age if they were all founded upon Jesus? If all husbands and wives lived for Christ rather than for self and loved one another with Christ’s love? If all marriages had as their foundation and center Jesus Himself, loving Jesus with all the hearts of the husband and wife, loving one another, and living filled with and led by God’s Holy Spirit according to the Bible? Oh, how different marriages would be, wouldn’t they? Not only would there be no divorcing, but marriages would thrive and be pleasing, honoring, and glorifying to God!

I was married twice and abandoned by both husbands. Neither marriage was founded upon God almighty and the Bible. We lived for ourselves not for Christ. Both men I married and I lived according to the world’s ways and were mostly self-centered not Christ-centered.

Are you married? Is your marriage founded on Christ and the Bible? We can’t control others, but we can live the right way ourselves and be an example to others including to our loved ones. And we can pray for them to be totally devoted to Jesus.

Years ago my pastor at the time helped me understand we will all have to give an account of OUR lives to the Lord one day and NOT an account of others’ lives.

Whether married or single, no matter how anyone else is acting around you, please be totally surrendered to the Lord and His ways. And pray for others to be also!

Oh, Lord, heal marriages everywhere. All over this nation and all over the world. Draw husband and wives everywhere to yourself, lead them to repentance, save them, fill them with and lead they by your Holy Spirit, teach them your ways, refine and purify and transform them, grow them in their marriages, and teach the married to live for you both as individuals and as married couples, oh yes, AMEN!

If you are married, or know someone who is married you are led to encourage, I very much implore you to take the time, love, and care to read the following verses and take them to heart!

“submitting to one another in the fear of God. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH.” This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” Ephesians 5:21-33

“Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror. Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous; not returning evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary blessing, knowing that you were called to this, that you may inherit a blessing.” 1 Peter 3:1-9

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