If you have ever been hurt by Christians, maybe you have experienced what I have. It doesn’t just hurt. It really, really, really hurts. Oh yes it does! Why does it seem to hurt so much more than it does when people who don’t believe in the Lord Jesus Christ hurt us? Most importantly, what should we do when it happens?
I am a 100% Jewish follower of the Lord Jesus Christ and wasn’t raised in church, around the Bible, nor around almost any people who talked about Jesus, the Bible, and following Him. So as a head over heels in love with the Lord devoted follower of His and who became such as an adult who has been hurt by Christians countless times since truly committing my life to Him, I am even more sensitive to the hurt. Ouch! I am also sensitive to begin with and always have been. Extra ouch!
Friend, the reason I believe it hurts so much more when we are hurt by Christians is that we place an expectation on and hope and trust in people who call themselves Christians that they will perfectly reflect the love and blessedness and goodness and kindness and all the rest of it of Christ Himself. We set ourselves up to be sorely disappointed and greatly hurt when we do this. Why?
The Lord is perfecting His ways in His followers and conforming us to Himself over the course of our lives since we first receive Him as Lord and Savior, BUT we are humans who are works in progress and if we are honest with ourselves need continual work as the Lord grows us in His image.
We should NOT put our expectation, trust, and hope in Christians. We should put our expectation, trust, and hope in THE LORD JESUS CHRIST! When we put our expectation, trust and hope in Christ instead of Christians, we will still be hurt at times. But the hurt will not take the same toll on us, and we can respond differently.
What then should we do when Christians hurt us?
DRAW NEAR TO THE LORD and POUR OUT OUR HEARTS TO HIM. As at any and all times, we need to find our love, hope, peace, comfort, compassion, wisdom, strength, healing, direction, mercy, grace, etc. IN JESUS!
Repent before God for any and all of our own wrongdoing in our thoughts, words, and actions and seek the forgiveness of anyone we may have hurt including the Christians who have hurt us!
Not judge! Not be prideful! Not be self-righteous! We need to remember we who follow Jesus also hurt others at times! We need to HUMBLE OURSELVES instead and work on our own selves by loving and obeying the Lord as He perfects His ways in us.
Love, forgive, and be merciful!
Pray for them!
Help them if and as the Lord leads us to follow the Lord!
PLEASE BE CAREFUL! I have talked to numerous people over the years who have turned their backs on the Lord Jesus Christ because they were hurt by Christians.
Please don’t mix up the wrongdoing of Christians with Jesus! The Lord is absolutely PERFECT and NEVER DOES WRONG and is HOLY and RIGHTEOUS!
DO NOT TURN YOUR BACK ON JESUS BECAUSE OF WHAT CHRISTIANS HAVE DONE WRONG! DRAW CLOSER TO HIM!
And PLEASE DO NOT TURN AWAY FROM CHRISTIANS BECAUSE OF WHAT CHRISTIANS HAVE DONE WRONG! Love them, forgive them, encourage them, and help them to follow the Lord!
Hoping and trusting this helps! Amen!
Lord, this is such an incredibly hard subject at least it is for me. There are times I have wanted to run as fast as I can away from Christianity and Christians because of how badly and how often I have been hurt by them. But I refuse. That’s exactly what the devil wants! To divide the Body of Christ, your followers! To make us weak and destroy any unity we have. But you desire we be unified, oh Lord! One Body of Christ! And you desire we love!
You have kept me from running away! Father, please with all my heart I beg you to heal the hearts of any of my readers who have been wounded by Christians. Help them to love and forgive and be merciful and pray and help others to love and stop hurting people. Lord, we ALL need you. We all do wrong at times. None of us is perfect but you, oh Lord.
Lead us to repentance regarding our own wrongdoing, and show us when we need to go out and seek the forgiveness of others!
Help us not to be prideful but to humble ourselves instead. Oh God, how we need you! Please bring your Body of Christ to a place of total humility and teach us all to love, love, love as you do, oh Lord. Please help those of us who have been badly hurt not to put walls up around our hearts and be afraid to be close to people again because of how Christians have hurt us. For those who already have walls up, please Lord take them down. Give us the courage and boldness to LOVE others no matter how we are treated. Oh, God, we are in dire need of you in all this.
Please strengthen the Body of Christ. In your strength. Please help us to stop hurting each other. It’s like when soldiers in a war get confused and fight each other instead of the enemy. Help us to stop fighting each other. Oh, I could pray on and on with this subject. Lord, please put it on the hearts of my readers to pray and pray and pray for other Christians concerning these matters. Oh, Lord, thank you for hearing my cries, AMEN!
Draw all of us, Father, closer and closer to you, oh Lord! Yes, AMEN!
“”I do not pray for these alone, but also for those who will believe in Me through their word; that they all may be one, as You, Father, are in Me, and I in You; that they also may be one in Us, that the world may believe that You sent Me. And the glory which You gave Me I have given them, that they may be one just as We are one: I in them, and You in Me; that they may be made perfect in one, and that the world may know that You have sent Me, and have loved them as You have loved Me.” John 17:20-23
“But concerning brotherly love you have no need that I should write to you, for you yourselves are taught by God to love one another;” 1 Thess. 4:9
“Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.” Matthew 7:12
“”For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” Matthew 6:14-15