It Hurts [So Much], BUT –


It Hurts [So Much], But…

“It hurts [so much]*, but I forgive her.” I don’t know if I spoke the words aloud or murmured them in my heart.

I don’t know if it was an official prayer or simply a strong thought. I hadn’t slept well and was pretty much still waking up. I had already spent wonderful time with the Lord praying, listening, and studying His Word. Now this.

I had been thinking about someone I dearly loved who had come into my life for very small snippets of time and then darted quickly away for long seasons. Just like another loved one had done for years. Making it all the harder because I suppose my heart was still raw in places. But then this. This wild and powerful transformation. By the grace of Jesus.

No matter how much it hurt, I forgave her. Each and every time. By the grace of Christ alone. For when our hearts hurt like heck, it can be oh so hard to even consider forgiveness let alone to do it. To forgive.

But forgiveness isn’t a suggestion from the Lord. Forgiveness is a command. And though we may not feel like forgiving, we need to forgive as an act of obedience to the Lord.

The Lord will take care of the hurt, friend, when we place our hearts and lives in His hands. As for the forgiveness, that’s our responsibility. A choice set before us. A decision we must make. To forgive or not to forgive. If we’re believers in the Lord Jesus Christ, and we call Him Lord, then we know what we must do.


I have enough experience over the years to know that when we choose to forgive, the Lord God almighty will give us everything we need to do so. His love, mercy, grace, peace, strength, wisdom, comfort, and even joy. The joy of living in obedience to the Lord and in choosing the way of Christ. The way of love. The way of mercy. The way of grace. The way of forgiveness. His way. Not ours. For His glory. Not ours.

Choose forgiveness, my friend. For Christ’s sake.


Father, my prayer is simple and strong. Help us to forgive, oh Lord. For sometimes it seems impossible. But through you I know and trust we can. Help us to forgive, dear Father. And mend our broken hearts, oh Lord. Make us whole by your glorious hands. For your name’s sake, AMEN!

““Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” Luke 6:37

“But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” Matthew 6:15

“Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.” Matthew 18:21-22

• My original words were slightly different, but I was told by someone contrary to my own understanding and education that the words were offensive. Given my exceeding love for the Lord and my love for others, I felt it best not to debate but simply to remove the words to avoid any possible offense. I therefore replaced them to avoid any possible offense.

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